I know what causes drama in my life. In new social interactions, I rely on fact, rather than intuition.
This may be tied to the fact that I think I'm a tiny bit autistic, as I see traits in myself that are very similar to my father's (who sometimes states that he thinks HE is a tiny bit autistic).
People who have a tiny bit of autism (ie. Asperger's Syndrome) often react based entirely on fact, and while they recognize body language and contextual clues, they for some reason often do not react based on those bits of info in an actual interaction.
In retrospect, both for the teacher thing and the car thing, the warning signs were there, and I should have been able to gather data regarding each person's personality, their speech, the lack thereof, and so on, to gauge what kind of information I would in turn supply, when, and how.
But because my responses were not finely tuned enough, because I was not perceptive enough regarding each individual, hell broke loose.
It wasn't because I wasn't polite or PC enough. And I often find myself being overly polite and PC to compensate. It was just because I didn't contextualize my responses.
Am I on to something here? Or maybe I'm just full of horse poo....
1 comment:
I've probably met two or three people in my life who had the skills to be able to size up strangers quickly and know exactly how to play them. It's very hard to interpret and predict how people are going to act and react to things. This is why there are whole fields of study called psychology and sociology! Don't beat yourself up about not having been able to size up a couple of assholes. If it makes you feel any better Iranians (and I can say this because I am one - kinda) are notorious for being great liars and actors because they do it on a regular basis (the culture demands it). I'm glad you got your car back safely, and hope you have a nice restful, happy holiday:)
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